Well I’m here in sunny California. After a very scene drive through the plains of Iowa, the rolling hills of Wyoming, the rock formations and salt flats of Utah, the mountains of Nevada, and finally through redwood forests I arrived for a week of vacationing with my family in NorCal before moving down to SoCal. Thank you for all of our prayers as my Aunt and I made our over 1700 mile and 24hr road trip. Needless to say, the very first stop was Inn & Out burger, and it was well worth the drive.
Transition defined by dictionary.com “Movement, passage or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change.”
People have been asking me what I’m most excited for about California. And as much as I love the ocean and love my family, my heart longs for a place to call home. I love “nesting” and making a house a home, my safe place and get-away from our crazy world. In essence, “I’m a home body.” And not having a home and routine really throws me off. In fact, it makes me rather uncomfortable. But I know that is normal, and so in a way that helps me to come to an acceptance of transition.
This morning I woke up and just felt so many emotions. I felt pretty awful. My life transition right now is moving. But so many things in life require transition; starting college, graduating, starting a new career, falling in love, starting a family, having an empty nest, and retiring, just to name a few. With each of these comes some high highs, but most would agree there are also some low lows. And if you are reading this you are certain to have had a life transition of some sort that you can relate to.
I had to say goodbye. And I hate that. In my mind I just pretend I’ll see them again tomorrow and it makes me feel so much better. But as I hugged my nephew for the last time in four months I couldn’t help but let a few tears roll down my cheeks. I’ll miss my family a ton. So my heart aches for what I left behind, but it longs dearly for what lies ahead and for what I know with confidence that God has called me too.
So transition leaves me in this emotional roller coaster which is exhilarating and terrifying all at the same time. And no matter how much I love what I am about to do, it doesn’t change the fact that it can be really uncomfortable and overwhelming to adjust. We all go through transitions, and each of us experience transition a little differently. When I worked in full time ministry life was in constant transition taking road trips every month to different conferences, working on different campuses, and moving for mission trips—and I have learned a few things in my journey through life’s transitions. So take it or leave it, I’m definitely still learning, but here is some advice from a Christ centered perspective.
- Meet with the Lord daily, he is your one constant and your one strength.
Psalm 18: 2, “The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.”
- Spend time in prayer, and ask God to be with you and provide for all your needs.
Philippians 4:19, “And my God will supply every need of your according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
- Rely on your community. Just today I texted two of my best friends and asked for prayer because I was having a little bit of a hard time transitioning—and they were a sweet blessing and encouragement to me.
Colossians 3: 12-14, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
- Be grateful for what you left behind and never look back with regrets. Trust that you had the experiences that you had for a purpose. As you look towards the future hope in the good things ahead. Take time to thank those who made an impact, reflect on God’s goodness in your previous chapter, and praise God for what He has planned ahead.
- If you have any relationships that are strained, seek to amend these. Forgive. Try to connect with these men and women if possible to show grace and bring peace. If this is not possible, release them from whatever wrong they have done and be ready to move forward without harboring feelings of bitter resentment. You don’t need to carry negative baggage with you into your next chapter.
What have you learned in life’s transitions? Feel free to comment below 🙂